10 Facts about a Marital Life in Islam



The way our society demands a Husband to treat his wife or the things a wife is 'supposed' to do for the husband's family in our culture are non-existent in Shariah. In Islam:

1. A wife RESERVES FULL RIGHT of a seperate house in which NO relative of her husband lives.

2. A wife has NO RESPONSIBILITY towards husband's parents, siblings or the families of his siblings.

3. Which makes it obvious, that the parents & siblings of a man CAN NOT demand ANY FAVOR/ASSISTANCE/HELP from the man's wife.

4.  A woman will NOT be asked about her Parents-in-law in Hashar; Infact, she too would be asked about HER parents ONLY, like men.

5. A Husband is NOT ALLOWED to beat her Wife WHATSOEVER. In Quran, the ONLY verse which allows the husband to give a 'physical punishment' allows it as a LAST RESORT after giving Verbal Warning & Changing of Room, in that case too, Quran says, 'Beat her with a Maswak & NOT on face'.

6. Since even a Husband is not allowed to beat his wife; Scolding & Beating of a woman by a Husband's family member, is UNIMAGINABLE in Islam. Its simply HARAAM.

7. A Husband, is religiously BOUND to pay for the basic needs of his wife and children & an affordable pocket money to her wife. NO ONE can justify otherwise or suggest a man NOT TO bear the expenses of his wife for even a day.

8. Even if the wife earn millions a month, a husband has NO RIGHT over her money and STILL has the obligation to bear her expenses.

9. NO MEMBER of either Husband or Wife's Family is allowed to take decisions for a Couple's life. Secrecy & Privacy are BASIC rights of any couple & mutual duty of both partners. Quran Says in Surah Baqrah, "They(your wives) are as Garments for you & you are as a Garment for"

10. For a man, NO ONE but his Wife should be the FIRST Priority, NO ONE ELSE. A Husband is given an elevated position ONLY because he is supposed to take care of his parents and his wife ALONGSIDE, equally. If he isn't fulfilling the rights of his wife just so he can keep his family happy, he DOESN'T deserve the 'Mighty Honorable' Status of a Husband.

If, a woman is letting go of ANY or all these 10 rights in one way or another & making adjustments in love of her husband OR for our 'Society Norms', the husband MUST feel INDEBTED to her. It would be her EHSAAN on Him.

All these ideas of marital oppression on Women never existed at the time of Prophet, but we follow these prouldy because 'Our Culture' says so.

Had we had the habit of studying Sunnah, we would have known that the life of Prophet Muhammad & the sunnah of His Sahaba is FILLED with hadiths and incidents which testifies each and every of the above mentioned 10 facts.

Men of our society, in subcontinent, because of the pointless 'teachings' by our ignorant elders, forget, what immense responsibility these women are. Prophet Muhammad in His last Sermon Said:
"For the sake of Allah! Look after your women. They are the trusts of Allah in your hands. You have sought them after you made a pact with Allah and she became your wife in the Name of Allah."  (Bukhari | Mulsim | Tirmdhi)

Allah Ho Akbar! For any faithful Muslim, these powerful words by Prophet himself are ENOUGH to realize the status of a wife!

Prophet Muhammad said: "The most perfect man in his faith among the believers is the one whose behaviour is most excellent; and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives." (Tirmidhi)

May Allah Enable Me, You and All of Us to live our lives according to the Perfect & Glorious Principals of Islam & May we all Be Kind to the Women of our society!

- Written by Ubair Khan
(Ubair Khan)